Will Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 I'm having a problem, I'm anxious and worried because I always have a habit of offending someone. I've offended like 3 people already and I just think I'm horrible person but I know in my heart that I am a really good, nice person. Most of my friends say I'm a really good person who would bend over backwards for my friends, some small amount of people give me the impression I'm tiring, annoying, etcI'm so confused and quite worried. I mean I'm sincere, loyal, caring, nice, there for my friends, funny, trustworthy and what not. I have a minor problem with socialising with people, as part of Asperger's I sometimes say stuff which is unacceptable - but people can't really hold that against me? If someone who had Tourettes was racist to me, I wouldnt hold that against them but I dont know why people hold that against me. TBH, most stuff are in some way a misunderstanding but people wont listen.Times like this I wish, either I wasnt born or didnt have Aspergers. It's like a trade-off since everyone who has Aspegers are highly-intelligent but have social and communication problems. Then, there's the ADD/ADHD which is a concentration and hyper problem. I can't sit still and act like I'm on speed - it's chaos.I need some friendly ( ) advice, which is important because I want to have a good start to this year - preferbly before the year begins. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 You might have one friend but they might be amazing, it's quality not quantity, and trust me, until you accept that you are who you are, then you won't be able to move forward in life. As people who may know me, I always say keep confident and keep that chin high. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fred Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 I know its difficult to understand, but they'll get over whatever problems are happening. Don't worry about it yourself, as they'll come round. If they dont, well.. its no biggy, because it hasn't affected your attitude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark9 Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 You might have one friend but they might be amazing, it's quality not quantity, and trust me, until you accept that you are who you are, then you won't be able to move forward in life. As people who may know me, I always say keep confident and keep that chin high.It's one of the many ironies in life that we always try and fit in, and yet its who are we individually that people are attracted to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StevenVig Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 Nothing like the announcement, have you never listened to the radios? I had one pretty nearly every shift I worked during fireworks, so, yes, I have HA! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fred Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 So why did you fail so spectacularly at repeating it? You boob! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kevin Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 10-7 65 mike 65 oscar 65 peter?I have no idea, truthfully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lordcutter6 Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 I am a fool. Spent all of yesterday in a dark room playing Xbox 360 and now the whole of my left eye is bloodshot, all way up to pupil all around, so sore. I've learnt a lesson - having fun can have consequences Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrew H Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 having fun can have consequences That's rather depressing Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack The Sack Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Well, to be perfectly honest I'm pretty pissed off with some TPM Members in particular.I can't help being pessismistic, people let me down and critisize me and I can't take the stress.So it pisses me off when some AROGANT bastards start making assumptions and sum me up even though they don't know me personally and the hardships I've gone through.To be honest, I don't really like them and I don't care if they know Rant over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeyT Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 It sounds horrible, but there are a lot of people out there who are either naive about life, or ignorant about issues they can't begin to understand. It's sad, but all too true.It's a shame us human beings assume things and stereotype, sometimes we mean no harm by it and can't help it, everyone does it at some point. It can be really difficult when you do get people who are a bit ignorant though, I think if people had a little knowledge of the consequences of their actions, then people would be a little more aware of what they say and do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack The Sack Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 It sounds horrible, but there are a lot of people out there who are either naive about life, or ignorant about issues they can't begin to understand. It's sad, but all too true.It's a shame us human beings assume things and stereotype, sometimes we mean no harm by it and can't help it, everyone does it at some point. It can be really difficult when you do get people who are a bit ignorant though, I think if people had a little knowledge of the consequences of their actions, then people would be a little more aware of what they say and do.I absolutely agree. People always stereotype me because I'm gay, asian and so many other things. They also assume I attention seek, it angers me that people just assume and they don't try to understand how the persons feeling on the inside. Inside, I'm breaking and people seem to think its "seeking attention". Its ridiculous Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeyT Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Well if you ever fancy a chat then my PM box is always open Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fred Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 I'm sure theres other ways to vent these feelings, such as speaking to MikeyT or people who can help about it. I am a tolerant guy, bloody hell I have to be. I don't care if you're gay or straight or jumpyshouty or shy, as long as its not forced down my throat such as "I wanted a bf for 2010, did I get? Thanks santa" or whatever. As there is no substance to it, and just seems like a sudden splurge of gobbledegook, its annoying! I'm sure you would feel the same way if I did the same., Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pickles Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 See this is a grey area that pisses me off cause tbh who knows what people are feeling on the inside, you could find the happyest person on earth and they might feel like sh!t on the inside. You just don't know. Everyone has their own reactions to things that happen in lives so what may be nothing to one person like a stupid comment might tear another person up inside, you just don't know. Therefore people saying 'oh thats nothing' etc pisses me off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 I totally get what you're saying Holly!Past problems I go through, I have tried to tell my college friends, parents and sister but they most don't understand and are not open-minded. They make it out like it's nothing and it's not that bad. I have Aspergers & A.D.D and they make it out like it's not that bad, my Dad doesnt even believe I have this problem and that I was misdiagonised. That's just an example of problems I have, and people think they're nothing.. I mean, how do they know how it feels for me, it might feel like nothing but everyone handles everything different and it's that exact bloody closed-mindness which causes me to dislike my parents and people who dont understand; they just dismiss this stuff. I feel suffocated that I can't deal with it and it's neverending, that sometimes I feel there's only one solution, which is not a good solution, if you read in-between the lines. One of the ways I deal with my problems, is that I write songs to vent my anger, express my rare happiness, feelings about people, my beliefs, society, injustice. And it works, but I still feel that's not enough. Part 2:I'm going through a bunch of really crap things, I obviously cant tell my parents or my sister. I've told a backstabber friend a bunch of stuff, who is straight-talking, average girl but is quite smart. I just found she's been telling people stuff I told her in private and I feel stupid for not realising it. I just want to have a week or even a month (dare I say), where everything is OK for once. I really was glad to have no problems with friends and now I've messed up 3 friendships: one friend that I stay in contact with, one is a good friend and the other one is a really-good friend. On the friendship situation, (as the first of many problems) I'm beginning to understand that because I lost my best friend and some really-good friends, I'm trying to make up for that, by trying to have more friends. However, the problem is that I'm too much. I know that I can be annoying sometimes even though I can't help it at times (obvious reason explained), I know I'm a good person who have many good qualities; people tell me this. I can't understand why people don't see I'm a good person; maybe some people are blind (not literally) and refuse to see the good in me, because all they concentrate on, is me being annoying. I can honestly say, occasionally be annoying is the only thing that I know of, that people dislike about me. If there's other problems, I don't know - people don't always tell me (busy, etc).I can't stress how much I would like to start the year with a fresh plate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pickles Posted December 31, 2009 Report Share Posted December 31, 2009 See I just tend to rant about the small things I'm not extremely bothered about, I decided to tell my 'best' friend what was really going on and she said she understood but then we got into an arguement and suddenly she doesn't anymore. There are many things which I could sit here and say but even if it was my other best mate I couldn't say due to the persecution I've recieved over the years about my problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gemma Posted January 6, 2010 Report Share Posted January 6, 2010 Can't help but feel a little left out- we had a snow day today and all my friends go out without inviting me. Safe to say my feelings are a little hurt. All they had to do was send me a little text asking if I wanted to go out for a bit. This makes me sound really self centred but am I really not that fun to be around? They've begun rubbing it in on Facebook and stuff now. Urgh :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 We just journeyed into a new year, and I have a rant for you all. I absolutely HATE the comments on New Year's Eve such as 'Oh 2010, New Start, New Me!' 'I'm going to leave everything in the past behind, and get everyone I hate out of my life'. I'm sorry, but going from 31st December to 1st January is just like any other night. Obviously, everyone celebrates going into a new year, but I really don't get all of this 'New Me' business. You're exactly the same as you were yesturday, it doesn't seem as though you've stopped contacting everyone who you met in the past, and it doesn't particularly seem like you've started life again. Honestly, what are you talking about? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan9 Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 We just journeyed into a new year, and I have a rant for you all. I absolutely HATE the comments on New Year's Eve such as 'Oh 2010, New Start, New Me!' 'I'm going to leave everything in the past behind, and get everyone I hate out of my life'. I'm sorry, but going from 31st December to 1st January is just like any other night. Obviously, everyone celebrates going into a new year, but I really don't get all of this 'New Me' business. You're exactly the same as you were yesturday, it doesn't seem as though you've stopped contacting everyone who you met in the past, and it doesn't particularly seem like you've started life again. Honestly, what are you talking about?You just beat me to saying that! I hate how everyone says every year as well, and they never change, and yet they say it again the next year. One night cannot change who you are completely. I'm fine with people wanting to change a bit but a whole new them seems a bit drastic, if they were a completely new person they'd end up leaving all their friends and everyone they knew behind as well like Paul said.And even if they're just changing a bit, it can't happen in one night and on that night only. It's just another night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimR Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 If you shop here, I despise you. You are all such rude, arrogant, nasty and wilful people, and I really hate working there.****heads.Ummm, excuse me but how can you say that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Ummm, excuse me but how can you say that?Lol, Tim, that's the one in Reading isn't it? He didn't mean that specific shop. Outfit works in John Lewis in KIngston and he doesn't like his job... at all. He's not attacking the Reading John Lewis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimR Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Lol, Tim, that's the one in Reading isn't it? He didn't mean that specific shop. Outfit works in John Lewis in KIngston and he doesn't like his job... at all. He's not attacking the Reading John Lewis Ooops, mis-read! It's not really that I'm defending the Reading John Lewis, it's just that my Dad works for them, so I got kinda offended. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 Can't help but feel a little left out- we had a snow day today and all my friends go out without inviting me. Safe to say my feelings are a little hurt. All they had to do was send me a little text asking if I wanted to go out for a bit. This makes me sound really self centred but am I really not that fun to be around? They've begun rubbing it in on Facebook and stuff now. Urgh :/ You need knew friends. Yours don't sound very nice.Ooops, mis-read! It's not really that I'm defending the Reading John Lewis, it's just that my Dad works for them, so I got kinda offended.I never knew Reading had a John Lewis?!In other news.School is closed tomorrow APART from Year 11 so yeah I'm kind of annoyed, although I think its so cold that its will probably snow more and freeze over, so I still have hope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted January 7, 2010 Report Share Posted January 7, 2010 In other news.School is closed tomorrow APART from Year 11 so yeah I'm kind of annoyed, although I think its so cold that its will probably snow more and freeze over, so I still have hope.Argh I know how much that sucks. We have been told, next week if you see our school as closed, all year 11 students must still try to make their way into school. Mock exams will not be re-sheduled unless absolutely necessary, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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